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Children's Right's in Regards to Custody & Visitation
The judicial system in each state considers numerous factors in arriving at a final and proper child custody arrangement. After reviewing all of these factors, the Wisconsin Supreme Court devised a guideline for a child's rights. These basic rights are upheld in all 50 states:The right to:
- a continuing relationship with both parents.
- be treated not as a piece of property, but as a human being recognized to have unique feelings, ideas, and desires consistent with that of an individual.
- continuing care and proper guidance from each parent.
- not to be unduly influenced by either parent to view the other parent differently.
- express love, friendship, and respect for both parents: freedom from having to hide those stated emotions or made to be ashamed of such.
- an explanation that the impending action of divorce was in no way caused by the child's actions.
- not to be the subject and/or source of any and all arguments.
- continuing, honest feedback with respect to the divorce process and its impact on the changing relationships of the family.
- maintain regular contact with both parents and a clear explanation for any change in plans and/or cancellations.
- enjoy a pleasurable relationship with both parents, never to be employed as a manipulative bargaining tool.
The obligation of being a parent does not end after a divorce. It is extremely important to understand that the bond of marriage is completely different from that of parents. This is the most common down fall in todays society, as a dissolution of marriage takes place so does that of parenting. To avoid difficulty in sharing parenthood after a divorce try to follow these basic rules:
Address situations with business-like behavior. If at any time a conversation becomes a little too personal, it might be wise to continue it on a later date.
- Respect and encourage the child's relationship with the other parent.
- Schedule regular appointments with the ex-spouse to discuss parenting issues.
- Make no assumptions on past behavior.
- Attempt to express and/or show appreciation towards one another as even the simplest comment or action can create a stronger and more effective partnership.
- Never intentionally break or skip appointments. If one can't be kept, be immediately forthright and honest.
- Do not make individual decisions.
- Be open minded.
- Remember the goals and recognize the benefits as they arise.
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