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by Dean Hughson
Title: A Piece of My Soul is Missing
Question:
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After 17 yrs. of marriage and over 2 yrs. of dating I left my husband after
many attempts at counseling. I felt like if I didn't get away I'd go crazy.He
refused to leave so I had to, for my own sanity. I would of liked our marriage
to be different,we loved and hated each other. Starting over has been I think
the most difficult thing I have ever gone through (still) It has been 3yrs. I
am engaged he has a new child, but there is I big part of me that is still
broken, a piece of me soul is missing. I'm afraid it will never be whole
again, regardless of how happy everything feels or looks on the outside,
inside feels like it will always be scarred. I hope it wont be like this my
whole life.
Answer:
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you can't expect to not have feelings and emotions from a 17 year marriage.....you need to find some way to get through the grief and get on with your life. A good place to do that is in a divorce support group or with a therapist. People do heal on their own but in the scheme of things it is often better to use resources like groups or therapists to speed the process. Visit the resources at DIVORCE SOURCE http://www.divorcesource.com/index.html for your state and read about finding a counselor or support group. Let me know how you do. Good luck.
Dean Hughson, called the Dear Abby of Divorced Dads by the KC Star, is the founder of the DIVORCE HOMEPAGE. He has talked to thousands of people contemplating divorce, going through divorce, or the chaos afterwards and gives referrals and advice. He resides in Nevada, the state with the highest divorce rate in the US.
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