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Ask the Divorced Guy!
by Dean Hughson
Title: Mediation or Not
Question:
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I am currently in the process of getting a divorce through mediation. I
was asked by the mediator to "come up with a proposal" to submit to my
wife. I admit I only surfed for a couple of hours, but I am OVERWHELMED
by the amount of information available, almost too much! What I am
looking for is some type of model or template agreement I can follow so
I don't leave out anything important. I would appreciate any
suggestions.
Answer:
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I am a strong advocate of mediation which I think is under utilized in our time. As you probably were told, they help you figure out where both of you stand and attempt to get you to reach agreement on key items. Then you can have your own attorney look at the agreement to be sure all things have been covered. Items than can be discussed and agreed upon include child support, child custody, property division, spousal maintenance, payment of health and life insurance, etc. What you need to do is make a list of things you consider important and go back to the mediator prepared to talk.
It feels a lot better to make these decisions yourself without the court having to do it for you.
Congratulations on making a wise decision to use mediation.
Dean Hughson, called the Dear Abby of Divorced Dads by the KC Star, is the founder of the DIVORCE HOMEPAGE. He has talked to thousands of people contemplating divorce, going through divorce, or the chaos afterwards and gives referrals and advice. He resides in Nevada, the state with the highest divorce rate in the US.
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