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by Dean Hughson
Title: Doesn't Want to Take Anything From The Family
Question:
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I am just beginning the process of a break up/divorce. We have been married
for 20 years and have three boy's, 18-15-12. We have a home and I need
Information on uncontested divorce. I do not want to take anything out of
this divorce, I want my family to keep the house and I want to lend support to
the kid's. Can you offer any insight for me, this is all new grounds for me.
Thanks
Answer:
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I'm going to ask you a question that is a hunch on my part. Are you
feeling guilty for something? The reason I ask is that you are a sitting
duck for what happens in a divorce--loss of your assets. Don't get me
wrong. It is a noble goal to give things to ones family but after a divorce
it would be good if you were able to have some say in what happens for your
kids from the assets. You have a duty to protect them. Run, don't walk, to
an attorney and talk about what is the way a divorce is done in your area
and property settlements. The reality is that 2 families cannot live as
well as 1 family so it may be a reality that your wife may need to go to
work. If the family home is going to be there for the kids, perhaps you can
have it set up that the home will not be sold until the kids are gone and
then the property value is split or perhaps your ex will want to own the
house from her split of the assets. You can then take the assets and put
them in a trust for your kids that control so you have some say in their
lives as they grow to where they may need the money. Take a look at the
links on the Divorce Support page to the laws in your state.
Dean Hughson, called the Dear Abby of Divorced Dads by the KC Star, is the founder of the DIVORCE HOMEPAGE. He has talked to thousands of people contemplating divorce, going through divorce, or the chaos afterwards and gives referrals and advice. He resides in Nevada, the state with the highest divorce rate in the US.
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