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Ask the Divorced Guy!
by Dean Hughson
Title: Attracted to a Man Going Through a Divorce
Question:
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I am really attracted to a man who is currently going through a divorce.
We live in neighboring cities but we both have mutual friends where I live.
I know he really likes me and has told our friends this as well. He told
me he is not really ready for a relationship with me right now which I do
understand. I guess he' checking out to see if the pasture is really
greener on the other side!. I have heard that many men go through a phase
just after a divorce where they seem to be more interested in one-night
stands and meaningless dates. How long does this phase last before a man
might be ready for a relationship?
Answer:
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Well, it differs for many. One of the things that happens to people after
a divorce, men and women, is that they need to feel Lovable so they
flirt, etc.. and will get into meaningless sexual relationships, etc.. all to
reassure themselves that despite the rejection of divorce they are a person
to love.
My advice is do nothing. If the person is a good candidate/quality person they will come to you. Don't pursue..He sounds like he is at least being honest about where he is.
Dean Hughson, called the Dear Abby of Divorced Dads by the KC Star, is the founder of the DIVORCE HOMEPAGE. He has talked to thousands of people contemplating divorce, going through divorce, or the chaos afterwards and gives referrals and advice. He resides in Nevada, the state with the highest divorce rate in the US.
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