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Ask the Divorced Woman!
by Maria Costa
Title: I need help - I want to leave my triplets!!!
Question:
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I am a woman , married, with three 16 year old kids at home..I want to move
to Washington state.....I want to leave the kids here with there father..I
live in Michigan. I have been married 25 years. I want a divorce. I will be
moving with an other man. What kind of things do I have to look for that
this might cause some trouble with my kids not being able to see them..Also
does it make me not eligible for Alimony, property settlements, . If we
agree on he pays no alimony, can I ask not to pay child support?
What will it mean if I just up and pack up and move to
Washington, and leave him with everything....Deserting the family what does
it mean for me as a mother and spouse?
Answer:
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I found your letter very disturbing and it really made me angry
especially as a mother. I am really getting tired of hearing stories
like yours. I am tired of being a parent so I want to disregard my
responsibilities as a parent and go live with someone else. Are you
going to be able to deal with the guilt?
Our children don't ask to be born, and once we have them it IS our responsibility to raise and love them and guide them to a happy start to their adult life!! As parents that is our jobs!!
You wanted to know what this means to you as a mother - do you honestly want an answer?
Will this affect your 3 sons? They will be affected for the rest of their lives. They will feel worthless, recycled, won't trust women, will have animosity towards women and will feel abandoned - just to name a few repercussions from your actions.
Moms and dads are never suppose to stop loving their kids and when we leave our children that in reality is the message we are sending them.
I strongly recommend that you and your whole family go for some counseling.
Pick up my book "When the Vows Break: Living Through Separation & Divorce" it will help you with the above questions plus how to join support groups which you need to do! If you can't find it in your local bookstore call my toll free number 888-267-3929 PIN #7176.
Maria Costa (Author & Seminar Speaker) A well known certified speaker and seminar leader, continues to inspire, motivate and challenge people to push their envelopes farther, both before and after experiencing divorce. A graduate of National-Louis University, with a Masters in Management, Ms. Costa is very active in her community. She is President of the Board of Directors of the Women's Resource Center, Fredericksburg, VA, President of Hispanic Internal Revenue Employees (HIRE), IRS, Washington Chapter and board member of Professional Women's Network. Be sure to visit Maria Costa's web site
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