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Ask the Divorced Woman!
by Maria Costa
Title: When is it Too Soon?
Question:
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Hi. After the divorce when should or shouldn't you put yourself
back out there? My ex has re-married, waited all of 10 day after the
final decree, but it was expected, they were living together. We
separated over two years ago, but the final did not come through until
July 97. I've met someone, but I'm scared to death of getting burned.
Answer:
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I highly recommend that everyone take at least one year off after their
divorce becomes final to comes to grips with themselves and see if they
are feeling secure in who they are.
Most folks, just don't feel right after undergoing a divorce and a lot of them cannot handle the loneliness. Once you find that you like being by yourself - then you are ready to date. If you are dating just to be with people and don't like being by yourself - you still have work to do emotionally!
Pick up my book "When the Vows Break: Living Through Separation & Divorce" it will help you with the above questions plus how to join support groups which you need to do! If you can't find it in your local bookstore call my toll free number 888-267-3929 PIN #7176.
Maria Costa (Author & Seminar Speaker) A well known certified speaker and seminar leader, continues to inspire, motivate and challenge people to push their envelopes farther, both before and after experiencing divorce. A graduate of National-Louis University, with a Masters in Management, Ms. Costa is very active in her community. She is President of the Board of Directors of the Women's Resource Center, Fredericksburg, VA, President of Hispanic Internal Revenue Employees (HIRE), IRS, Washington Chapter and board member of Professional Women's Network. Be sure to visit Maria Costa's web site
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