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Ask the Divorced Woman!
by Maria Costa
Title: Why do Men Cheat?
Question:
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I have been with my boyfriend for 7 years now. We have a 5 yr. old son
together, and we got engaged in Aug. of last year. I found out he has
been emailing girls with the hopes of meeting them. I know this because
he wanted to meet me in another town, only he didn't know it was me. I
guess you could say I was putting him thru a little test. And he failed
big time. Should I stay with him or not. My ex-husband cheated on me,
and that's why I filed for a divorce. I'm not a bad person. I work hard
at my job, and I keep a nice home. We are also in the process of buying
a home. So what am I doing wrong, or not doing? We have a good sex life,
or so I thought anyway. Why do men cheat and how do you stop them before
they destroy the relationship? The grass is not always greener on the
other side! My ex-husband found that out the hard way.
Answer:
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The internet has caused (unfortunately) many divorces. No, you are not a
bad person. You aren't the one looking on the internet. Don't
internalize a problem that is not yours. At this time, I really don't
recommend that you folks buy a house. You and your husband need to
communicate a lot more than what you seem to be doing. One way for you
to start a good dialogue between the two of you is for you to show him
your email from him if he denies that he is looking.
No one can answer your question of whether or not to stay with him - you are the only one that can really answer that question.
As far as men always looking outside the marriage - unfortunately there are a lot of women that do it too.
Pick up my book "When the Vows Break: Living Through Separation & Divorce" it will help you with the above questions plus how to join support groups which you need to do! If you can't find it in your local bookstore call my toll free number 888-267-3929 PIN #7176.
Maria Costa (Author & Seminar Speaker) A well known certified speaker and seminar leader, continues to inspire, motivate and challenge people to push their envelopes farther, both before and after experiencing divorce. A graduate of National-Louis University, with a Masters in Management, Ms. Costa is very active in her community. She is President of the Board of Directors of the Women's Resource Center, Fredericksburg, VA, President of Hispanic Internal Revenue Employees (HIRE), IRS, Washington Chapter and board member of Professional Women's Network. Be sure to visit Maria Costa's web site
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