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Ask the Divorced Woman!
by Maria Costa
Title: Should We Go to Counseling?
Question:
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I don't really know what I expect you to say, but I'm at the point of ending
my marriage of almost 3 years because of my husband's inability to express any
signs of the "love" he has for me. I don't understand how we got to this
point and I don't know what avenue to take as far as counseling or simply
separating.
I can't even talk to him and when I try I can't get through to him and then I want to kill him, figuratively speaking. I don't know whether counseling will help but I am willing to try it. We have a 2 year old daughter and I do want her to grow up in a stable home environment.
I guess I'm asking whether, at this point, it's too late for talk when my spouse and I aren't on the same page. Frankly, I'm tired of talking or trying to squeeze a conversation out of him. I do so for my daughter's sake though and I want to work things out also. Enough babbling, thank you for your time and attention.
Answer:
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Counseling is always a good idea before separation, if both of you want
to try. If you go to counseling you won't have to have the guilt of "I
wonder if it would have worked later on in your life".
Men, in general, are not great conversationalists. But because of your little one and for your own piece of mind, I suggest that you try counseling.
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Maria Costa (Author & Seminar Speaker) A well known certified speaker and seminar leader, continues to inspire, motivate and challenge people to push their envelopes farther, both before and after experiencing divorce. A graduate of National-Louis University, with a Masters in Management, Ms. Costa is very active in her community. She is President of the Board of Directors of the Women's Resource Center, Fredericksburg, VA, President of Hispanic Internal Revenue Employees (HIRE), IRS, Washington Chapter and board member of Professional Women's Network. Be sure to visit Maria Costa's web site
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