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by Maria Costa
Title: Money for Lawyers - Alimony Modification
I currently live in Florida, my ex-wife and i just completed a 2 yr court
case on modification of alimony. The court reduced the alimony in half due
to the fact her live in boy friend of 5 yrs has contributed to her
financially. Now 3 months later she is now taking me back to court to raise
the alimony back up. Her boyfriend is still with her. The bad part of the
story is that I had to pay 4/5 of her lawyer fees,, plus my own, for a total
of 31,000 over a two year period. Isn't there something a person can do to
stop this, the only ones winning is the lawyers.
It is so easy to blame the lawyers for charging all the money to mediate
between two people. Listen to yourself, it has taken 2 years for you and
your wife to agree on alimony. AND you've spent 31,000 during that
timeframe. My question to you - was it worth the fight? Any way you
both could have come into an agreement?
You can't blame the lawyers - it is each couple/person - that decides to
fight "because of the principle"! Lawyers are just representing the two
of you - you both made the decisions to fight.
Sorry, this might not have been the answer you were looking for...
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Maria Costa (Author & Seminar Speaker) A well known certified speaker
and seminar leader, continues to inspire, motivate and challenge people to push their envelopes farther, both before and after experiencing divorce. A graduate of National-Louis University,
with a Masters in Management, Ms. Costa is very active in her community. She
is President of the Board of Directors of the Women's Resource Center, Fredericksburg, VA, President of Hispanic Internal Revenue Employees (HIRE), IRS, Washington Chapter and board member of Professional Women's Network. Be sure to visit Maria Costa's web site
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