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Ask the Divorced Woman!
by Maria Costa
Title: Not Sure About the Guilt?
Question:
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Hi, I've just gotton a divorce but have been separated for 3 yrs. I
would like to know do you ever stop feeling guilty for staying married
for longer than you should. I have 4 grown up children and I see the
turmoil that staying has caused but at the time I didn't know I had so
many options and was lead to believe that I didn't have any...I'm not
sure if you can answer this, If you can't maybe there is no answer...
Answer:
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You have a couple of choices and so do your grown up children!
1. You can all continue in the past and say "I should have done this earlier" or "I should have done...."
OR:
2. You can all pick yourselves up - dust the guilt and go for a bright future.
If we all keep dwelling on our past mistakes, we'd all be in a sorry mess, emotionally & physically and we wouldn't be able to function. As far as the turmoil that your children are under - without knowing specifics - is it because they see how it is still affecting you??? You need to be the example for your children and you need to be the strongest.
You can do it!!
Let it go!
Pick up my book "When the Vows Break: Living Through Separation & Divorce" it will help you with the above questions plus how to join support groups which you need to do! If you can't find it in your local bookstore call my toll free number 888-267-3929 PIN #7176.
Maria Costa (Author & Seminar Speaker) A well known certified speaker and seminar leader, continues to inspire, motivate and challenge people to push their envelopes farther, both before and after experiencing divorce. A graduate of National-Louis University, with a Masters in Management, Ms. Costa is very active in her community. She is President of the Board of Directors of the Women's Resource Center, Fredericksburg, VA, President of Hispanic Internal Revenue Employees (HIRE), IRS, Washington Chapter and board member of Professional Women's Network. Be sure to visit Maria Costa's web site
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