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Ask the Divorced Woman!
by Maria Costa
Title: Child Support - Fight for Fathers Rights?
Question:
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My question would be seeing that either party has primary custody of the
parties daughter and up until the action of the mother I was the primary care
giver watching the child over 50% of the time, making a modest income of
approx.: 15,000 yearly.
During the time I was served to paid child custody the hearing examiner had to adjourned the hearing several times. Needless to say it took 8 months for a decision of paying support of 60.00 per week + day care and $210.00 per month for additional medical insurance.
I was then hit with a large arrearage child support bill and since this time the judge has order me to pay an additional 100.00 per month.
Now I have made an appeal to the family court in which I lost and since made an appeal to the supreme court, also I have lost this appeal. I have a choice to further this appeal however I want to do it for the rights of men that are not dead beats. I feel that strong about this issue. Their are cases out their that support my side of this process on which I should have had my child support modified or back to a new trail or simply at zero.
This decision has an adverse affect on my daughter and is interfering with my abilities to have a nurturing relationship with her. Also since I now have another child with my new spouse that is under 2 and this is a hardship and additionally has an adverse affect on my relationship.
I also am paying 40.00 per week for another child from a previous marriage.
I love my children and want the best for them. I have tried and every thing I do seem to fall short of making a living and providing for my children. I cannot even take to a movie, buy a pumpkin for them for Hollowed. Both my parents and in-laws have help out too much by helping me with the bills and all.
I'm trying to build a stronger real estate business and since have increase my income to approx.: 30,000 yearly and hope to make more advances.
My estrange has also turn me into the IRS and now I'm fighting to maintain what I have. My estrange works for an attorney and just simply if I breath wrong I'm back in court. ( she is the one that left the relationship) but she is upset with everything I do.
the parties child is suffering, she has developmental delays and behavior problems. I had to get turn in to the department of social service because I try to bring this to her attention. After their investigation found the case unfounded and seal my file. Then I year later I contacted the school and threw screening they found the parties child with served delays in speech and behavior problems.
Is their anything I can do? Should I try to further my appeal for the right of men or should I try to modified the order or custody order by going for primary custody?
Please e-mail me with any questions and or any other agency that may be able to help. If I make any more missed payments I will be facing jail time.
Answer:
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I am totally confused and your facts are not adding up. For example:
$15,000 divide by 52 = 288.46 $30,000 divide by 52 = 576.92 Child #1 = $60 wk x 4 = 240.00 insurance = 210.00 child care = ?.?? payment in areas = 100.00 Child #2 = $40 wk x 4 = 160.00 TOTAL $710.00 a month
I find it extremely interesting that you are "suppose" to be paying $710 when you only bring in $576.92 a month? This doesn't include any money for you to survive on????????????????
At this point, my recommendation to you is not to worry about making it better for "mankind" but try to take care of your responsibilities. If you think you have a good point - you would have already won through the court systems. The fact that you keep losing should tell you that you are barking up the wrong tree.
Yes, there are cases out there where fathers are paying way to much - and yes they have the option to go back to court and get it reduced. But then there are a lot of parents out there who just don't pay what they are suppose to...
Pick up my book "When the Vows Break: Living Through Separation & Divorce" it will help you with the above questions plus how to join support groups which you need to do! If you can't find it in your local bookstore call my toll free number 888-267-3929 PIN #7176.
Maria Costa (Author & Seminar Speaker) A well known certified speaker and seminar leader, continues to inspire, motivate and challenge people to push their envelopes farther, both before and after experiencing divorce. A graduate of National-Louis University, with a Masters in Management, Ms. Costa is very active in her community. She is President of the Board of Directors of the Women's Resource Center, Fredericksburg, VA, President of Hispanic Internal Revenue Employees (HIRE), IRS, Washington Chapter and board member of Professional Women's Network. Be sure to visit Maria Costa's web site
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