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Ask the Divorced Woman!
by Maria Costa
Title: Who Should File?
My husband wants a divorce after being together 21 years, married 18
years. He wants to remain friends and has asked me to file for divorce.
I'm in California and he has recently moved to Ohio. We have one son in his
senior year of high school and wants to go to college. I do not work and
have stayed home to raise my family during most of our marriage. I have
started college, which I have paid for by working on the college campus.
My husband closed our joint accounts a few years back and put it in an
account in Pragha. I have a letter from his mother stating the amount
deposited but it is written in Checzh and I can't read it. I have property
I bought before our marriage which he has paid for improvements. What he
wants to do is this, I keep the property, which as a old mobile home on it,
and he keeps the money in Europe,(according to the letter is, $112.459,47,
vezmi) his ESIP which was $78,928.27 on Dec. 96,profit sharing about
$113,000. on Dec. 96, his IRA about $28,000. and various stocks. My husband
thinks this is fair, this is what he has worked for. He has made the remark
in the past that he could always leave the Country and I won't have
anything. I know I haven't worked much during the 21 years we've been
together, but this just doesn't seem fair. How do I determine alimony? Can
I ask for child support until our son finishes college? How can I determine
what is fare? I haven't any money saved and can't pay for an attorney. My
husband also said that if we have to use attorneys, the one who can afford
the best will come out the best. He is anouxoious to get things moving NOW!
I have the "EZ Legal Software for Divorce" now what should I do?
You have asked several questions so let me take them in order:
1. If your husband wants a divorce - let him file the papers.
2. Take the letter from his mother and take it to your local bank and
find out exactly what is in the account in Pragha.
3. What is the value of your property?
4. From what you have printed in the money area, if you agree with him
you are letting go of a lot of money that by law is half yours! (CA
might have different laws, check our website under CA or make some
telephone calls to your district/civil court system to find out!)
5. He might leave the country but you can latch onto his retirement and
IRA, plus his profit sharing.
6. You let the judge determine the alimony and you can ask for child
support for your son plus college costs.
7. I highly recommend that you get an attorney - it will be very costly
to you in the long run if you don't.
Talk to your attorney about paying in installments.
Pick up my book through your local bookstore or call toll free
888-267-3929 PIN #7176. I have several key issues dealing with choosing
lawyers and using kids as pawns in a divorce.
I DON'T recommend that you handle this divorce yourself!!!! BIG MISTAKE!
Maria Costa (Author & Seminar Speaker) A well known certified speaker
and seminar leader, continues to inspire, motivate and challenge people to push their envelopes farther, both before and after experiencing divorce. A graduate of National-Louis University,
with a Masters in Management, Ms. Costa is very active in her community. She
is President of the Board of Directors of the Women's Resource Center, Fredericksburg, VA, President of Hispanic Internal Revenue Employees (HIRE), IRS, Washington Chapter and board member of Professional Women's Network. Be sure to visit Maria Costa's web site
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