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    Divorce Recovery Books:

    When the Vows Break: Living Through Separation and Divorce - Ships in 24 hours
    Thinking about divorce? In the midst of one now? Been there, done that and wonder what happened? Then this book is for you. When the Vows Break holds your hand, slaps your wrist and sends you skipping down the road to recovery.
    Maria Costa/ Paperback
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    The Divorce Recovery Sourcebook - Ships in 24 hours
    For many, the end of the divorce process means the most painful and difficult transition is just beginning. The Divorce Recovery Sourcebook is an empathetic guide to help people navigate their way through the legal, financial, and psychological landmines of divorce.
    Dawn Bradely Berry/ Paperback
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    Healing from Divorce - Ships in 24 hours
    In this book the person experiencing divorce is encouraged to make choices that impact her/his life in a positive direction. It helps the reader take the steps necessary to regain inner peace and happiness.
    Valerie King, M.D./ Paperback
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    The New Creative Divorce - Ships in 24 hours
    Through his books and his counseling practice, Dr. Mel Krantzler has helped millions of divorced men and women achieve happier lives during and after their divorce.
    Mel Krantzler, Ph.D. & Pat Krantzler, M.A./ Hardcover
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    The Divorce Recovery Journal - Ships in 24 hours
    An interactive book of insightful observations splashed with humor, useful advice on divorce and starting over, and space for your personal journaling.
    Linda C. Senn & Mary Stuart, M.A./ Paperback
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    How to Heal a Painful Relationship (Audio Cassettes) - Ships in 24 hours
    Throughout these two audio cassettes, you will learn, step-by-step, how to remove conflict and restore love in any relationship. You will learn what creates love and what destroys it. You will discover how to end the cycle of conflict, release resentment and restore your peace of mind.
    Bill Ferguson/ 2 Audio Cassettes
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    How to Heal a Painful Relationship - Ships in 24 hours
    In this book, you will learn, step-by-step, how to remove conflict and restore love in any relationship. You will learn what creates love and what destroys it. You will discover how to end the cycle of conflict, release resentment and restore your peace of mind.
    Bill Ferguson/ Paperback
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    Heal the Hurt That Runs Your Life (Audio Casettes) - Ships in 24 hours
    This book on audio cassette shows, step-by-step, how to find and heal the inner issues that run your life. These issues: failure, worthless, not good enough, etc., are only thoughts, but they sabotage every aspect of life. This life changing book on cassette walks you through a process that releases these thoughts and heals your hurt.
    Bill Ferguson/ 2 Audio Casettes
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    Helping Your Kids Cope with Divorce the Sandcastles Way - Ships in 24 hours
    Divorce is painful and confusing. Perhaps now more than ever, you want to give your child all the love, support, and guidance he or she needs, but everything seems harder and more complicated. Helping Your Kids Cope with Divorce the Sandcastles Way can help.
    M. Bary Neuman, L.M.H.C./ Paperback
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    Surviving Your Divorce - Ships in 24 hours
    This handbook will answer many of your questions and help you better understand the roles of the professionals involved inyour divorce, the legal and psychological processes, and the many possible options available to you.
    Family Advocate ABA/ Paperback
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    Heal the Hurt That Runs Your Life - Ships in 24 hours
    This book shows, step-by-step, how to find and heal the inner issues that run your life. These issues: failure, worthless, not good enough, etc., are only thoughts, but they sabotage every aspect of life. This life changing book on cassette walks you through a process that releases these thoughts and heals your hurt.
    Bill Ferguson/ Paperback
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    Healthy Divorce - Ships in 24 hours
    The authors' origional step-by-step process helps families, therapists, and counelors craft a responsible, deliberate divorce process that targets the emotional well-being of both parents and children.
    Craig Everett & Sandra Volgy Everett/ Paperback
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    The Divorced Dad Dilemma - Ships in 24 hours
    At last, the confused and hurt father, experiencing the losses of marriage, family life and the routine contact with his children, can find calm and loving guidance in how to live in his changed circumstances. So much written about divorce and parenting is addressed to women until now.
    Gerald S. Mayer/ Paperback
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    Coparenting After Divorce - Ships in 24 hours
    A Publication by the Family Law Section of the American Bar Association!Do It for Your Kids...Do it for Yourself! Get expert advice on the hardest job of your life!
    ABA Family Law Section/ Paperback
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    The Divorced Dad's Survival Book - Ships in 24 hours
    Shows how to navigate the process of getting a divorce so as to minimize the negative impact on one's children. The goal of the book is to show how fathers can use the divorce to improve their relationship with their kids.
    David Knox/ Hardcover
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    Steps Toward Recovery

    Divorce is chaotic and painful. Recovery begins when you decide to take some positive steps to feeling better. We urge you to follow these steps as soon as possible:

    Number 1

    Recharge yourself with as much sleep as you can get. For those who have forgot what sleep is, learn to sleep again.

    Number 2

    Eat healthy, but don't overeat! Eat healthy again

    Number 3

    Don't talk about divorce constantly at your office or place of employment. Use of asupport group which is more appropriate. People have lost jobs because divorce has interfered with their performance. If you have experienced this problem, the Internet is a great place to start looking for employment opportunities.

    Number 4

    Don't use alcohol or drugs, legal or not, to numb the pain. Talk to your doctor about your divorce. Going through this situation clear-headed is the best and quickest way to recover. Consider having a massage or going for a walk to relax. Exercise frequently. For many the process is much like experiencing a death-an excellent page on grief. The TLC Group site also can help in dealing with various grief situations. Another great resource is David Baldwin's Trauma Page which sees divorce as the trauma it really is.

    Number 5

    If you find yourself immobilized for too long, seek help from a therapist (for U.K. physicians, click here) or on-line help via Usenet/web page sources. If you find yourself contemplating suicide, read this help guide and seek help. Here is some info on one father, Allan Wells, who killed himself after a long term abusive relationship and bad treatment by the court.

    Number 6

    Divorce is an economic issue. You need to know your lifestyle is going to suffer financial cutbacks. (learn to save money) If you are a man with custody you stand a worse chance of getting child support. Usually all parties suffer a cut back in lifestyle and income. Some individuals have huge problems in living with that and I suggest you find the local Consumer Credit Counseling Office to help you if economic problems occur. Another good resource is Debt Counselors of America, a non-profit organization that assists consumers with financial problems: a highly rated site and friendly staff that can also give you on-line help .

    Number 7

    Get involved in helping others going through a divorce. Recovery comes quicker for those who help others. Great friends can be made via helping each other. You can begin helping yourself and others at a great selection of Interactive Online Divorce Forums. Try Divorce Chat Rooms that are also available!

    Number 8

    A large part of the recovery is learning the reality of what you are going through and the recovery process. Go to this amazing resource. for information about your state or province. You need to become a partner with your attorney to maximize your time/investment with him or her. Here is some quick advice on how to do best in the courtroom by attorney and former judge Linda Hack. Your attorney isn't a therapist or psychologist-there are good people to bounce ideas off of that you are working on during the divorce process and help you see if you are dealing with reality-they are experts on the law... find therapy/comfort elsewhere as well (a shrink costs $50-100/hr vs. your attorneys fees of $125-200/hr) as information sources. To help you with questions about divorce, children, recovery, stopping divorce, etc. run, don't walk, to a library or order some books.

    Number 9

    Children need both parents. Whether you are a man or a woman, be aware that significant things happen when children are cut off from a parent. The best parent is both parents. How many children are affected by divorce? Take a look at this.

    Number 10

    Develop a sense of humor. There are going to be a lot of times when you can do nothing but laugh because the alternative is to cry and this isn't always a lasting solution. Tell you what--want to make a complaint against the person who hurt you. Here is a safe place to do it and nothing will happen except you'll laugh after you read its amazing way of stating it. Small things like this can help break the stress and sadness. Defuse the person who is trying to hurt you with humor... Boy, that will throw them off. Try laughing when you find yourself in a situation where there is no simple solution and tell yourself "Well, is the world as I now know it going to be different from this action." Most times the answer is no... This is especially helpful when you get the copies of 'positioning' letters from your ex's attorney calling you a dangerous, mean, person... There isn't anything you can do but laugh... anything else hurts. Learn to laugh at books like How To Date A Millionaire.

    Number 11

    When you have healed, find a new significant other. Love comes again and it feels good. Right now isn't probably a good time to be telling you this... Many people are saying "I will never marry again, never trust, etc.." but you will. It comes at different times for different people. You'll know when. Take a look at a good page on finding love again through writing effective personal ads which do work. Personal ads online

    Here is my list of suggested divorce books and magazines. Take a look at this on-line self-help magazine. Self-Help Psychology Magazine.

    Final Note

    We hope the Divorce Page helps you find the help you need. You need to recover for your own happiness and the happiness of family members, like your children, who are affected. Seek out groups for your kids if they appear to be needing more help than you can give.

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