talldude2
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Reged: 08/17/08
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My Wife who filed for divorce has been addicted to anti-depressants for the better part of 8 years. 3 times in our marriage she came after me and I had to hold her from hitting me --I do not hit females. Several times she told me she wishes I was dead and that if it were not for her "Meds" I'd would have been a dead man a long time ago..
What really hurt is that she filed a TRO towards stating unless restrained, I'd do that to her. Fact it I have never even used the F word with her as I respect her. I was also one hit by my Mother-in-law at her home in front of her husband and my kids. My ear rang for days...
She's spent us into a black hole so now I sleep in our room with by myself with the dead bolt locked...
What to do... and I'm not a wimp --I'm 6' 3"..
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Jada
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Reged: 06/02/07
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Carry a tape recorder (or some device that can record your conversations) with you at all times and record every conversation you have with your wife. It may not be admissable in a court of law depending on your state, but it will help clear you of any abuse charges should she decide to accuse you of abuse.
And the next time she hits you, call the police and press charges.
You are planning on filing for divorce, aren't you? I would contact an attorney and see where you can go. Given what you have posted, you need to get custody of the kids. Do you have any witnesses to her abuse other than the children?
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allthumbs
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Reged: 07/12/07
Posts: 613
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To be able to get anti-depressants, she needs a doctor's prescription. I would make an appt. with her doctor to discuss the situation. Generally, a family doctor will talk to a spouse re: a medical condition even without the patient's knowledge. If it is a therapist or psychiatrist, they may not talk to you without your wife present. It could be a problem with her medication. Before you kick her to the curb, consider the possibility that she is mentally ill and isn't being medically treated properly.
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div2wice
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Reged: 09/05/08
Posts: 80
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No, you are not a wimp. You're a real man and should be proud of how you're handled this situation. Most other men would've done a lot more at this point...and would've gotten into a lot of trouble.
I agree, carry the recorder ALL THE TIME and tape everything. Its clear the anti depressants are not working and she has a worse mental condition than depression. She needs help and the only way she'll get that is if she's arrested - they will give her a psych evaluation.
If she or any of her family members hits you, call the police and file charges, no doubt.
Try to get some proof of her threats, even a few... also jot down some witnesses who may have heard her say those things as well. As soon as you get some proof, MOVE OUT and file for divorce immediately stating her unstable mental condition.
Be safe....
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Pamela
Do-It-Yourself Divorce
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missy8632
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Reged: 07/27/08
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What type of medication is she taking? One, with HIPAA laws you can talk with her doctor about your concerns but he can not tell yhou anything about her medical condition.
If she has a TPO, why are you still together?
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Samsung
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Reged: 06/14/07
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First of all, anti-depressants are not addictive. Second, whatever she is using is obviously not working!! Does she has alot of extreme ups and downs? She may need a re-evaluation.
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annaconda
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Reged: 10/15/08
Posts: 118
Loc: Australia
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[quote]First of all, anti-depressants are not addictive. Second, whatever she is using is obviously not working!! Does she has alot of extreme ups and downs? She may need a re-evaluation. [/quote]
An anti depressant itself may or may not be addictive, but there is an addiction for the use of prescription medications to self medicate. And if your wife is taking combinations of anti depressants, altering her dose, skipping doses then this could explain her erratic behaviour.
It is not acceptable and you need to protect yourself and the children. Even if a medical professional has the rights to discuss your wifes mental health with you. It does not guarantee she is only seeing this one GP and following required doses. She needs a proper phsyc assessment.
Well done for reaching out for help. Do so in real time also. Protect yourself as you said, She has already tried to accuse you of the things she did.
((((Who knows what she is capable of.....))))
Anna
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A day without laughter is a day wasted
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