cutegrlinmo
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Reged: 09/02/08
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We have been married for almost 8 years with a 4 year old daughter and a 2 year old son. My husband started the verbal abuse a few months after we married. I chalked it up to being young (me 17, him 20). I figured it would get better as time went on. Boy was I wrong. I still hear constantly, "Stupid [censored]" "Lazy fatass" "I love you more than mommy" "I'm better that mommy" "Slut" "[censored]" and the list goes on and on. Including rude sexual remarks in front of the children. "You ARE goin to give me some of that [censored] tonight" "Ready to suck my dick" again the list goes on. If I don't sleep with him on a "regular basis" he really talks mean to me and accuses me of cheating tells me I'm a slut and a [censored], and he don't actually want to sleep with me it's just that I'm the one thats there. Tells me that my parents don't love me as much as my brother, and they would never be there to help me. Tells me that I will never be good at anything, I'm only mediocre and I will never come in first, (we have competitions at my job). There's just a million things I could think of. Are you getting the picture? I think these things are very inappropriate and it has really knocked down my self esteem over the years. And you know, I don't think he even realizes what he does. He does not have to be mad to say these things. This is just how he talks. No big deal. Normal conversation to him. So I will let you use your imagination how bad it is when he is mad. Never physical though.
On the other had, he is actually a good father. He spends time with the kids, does special little things for them. The kids adore him. Should I stay so I don't take that away from them and him. He would be the type to probably go into some type of depression or something if he couldn't be with his kids everyday. Or do I go and hope the kids understand and appreciate it later??? AAAHHHHH!!!!!!! What do I do???? I'm going crazy here.
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SwedishChef
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Reged: 08/20/08
Posts: 134
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What about your boyfriend with the Cathlic School principal from your other post?
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If he can have her, I don't want her.
I gave her the ring, now I'm giving her the finger.
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Sarah1014
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Reged: 04/12/07
Posts: 2363
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I suggest individual therapy. You are attracted to the wrong types. Emotionally unavailable and abusive types. If you don't correct this, you'll find another one.
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juliacinaz
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Reged: 02/03/08
Posts: 1026
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Get out and get help to break this cycle before you and your kids are scarred for life by a verbally abusive man.
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john1953
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Reged: 01/14/06
Posts: 77
Loc: Pennsylvania
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i think you have probably answered your own question.Without a doubt get out of this abusive relasionship.The scares you already have will take a long time to heal,staying with this creep will only make the scares deeper.No women or man for that matter should ever be talked to or treated in that way,and its not going to end.It will only get worest.Do yourself and your kids a favor and kick this guy to the curb.I wish you well.And be safe .
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