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I have been married for 14 years and during the first 9 years of our marriage I was stupid enough to stay with him after over a dozen affairs. I know I know, why am I still in this 5 years longer? Anyhow, he insists I stay at home with our children Ages 4,5,6 and 13. So I left me job after our third child and have been a stay at home mom for 5 years. I did work part time at a preschool but have since been laid off due to no summer classes. I went back to college last fall and he wants me to get my degree and not work.However, we are finanically screwed. I tried to handle our finances and needless to say screwed everything up. Now he says if we divorce he is going to sue me for the problems in our finances. He loves to spend and for a few years hit the bar 2-4 times a week. Always drinking. Now we don't have money and he rarely goes out. He is verbally abusive and throws things and punches holes in our walls. i have taken picures of the holes throughout as evidence. I know I messe dup our finances, however, it was never intentional. I was very afraid to tell him anything since work was always difficult for him. He lost his 2nd job in the past three years. So he is unemployed. I am afraid of him and he is getting very threatening with me and throws the "D" word around alot now. We live in California. Any suggestions or perhaps anyknow know who I can talk to?

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