Divorce Support Forums: Soon to be displaced homemaker...what do I do?

My husband of 15 years has told me he wants a divorce. I tried to get him to go to counseling to save our marriage, but he says it's too late and he's done. I am totally devastated both emotionally and financially, as I have been a stay-at-home wife and mother for all these years. I only worked off an on a few times at menial clerical jobs and have no job now, no money (only what he gives me) no college degree and no self-esteem....

I'm not really sure what to do at this point. The only plan I have is to move to my sister's in North Carolina to start my life over. I need to get away from here and him because I cannot bear it. We have a 14 year old son together, whom I have agreed to give him custody of, at least temporarily, until I can get on my feet. We own our house together and I'm not sure what to do about that. He initially wanted to refinance it, give me my half of what equity is in it, (which right now with the market and what we owe would only be about $10,000) and he would take the other debt and let me walk free and clear. He is now kind of waffling on that because he is realizing that he will have to pay me some kind of spousal support. I think that he is going to try to make a deal outside of court with me to pay me like $1000 or less a month and put it into our dissolution agreement. I don't trust him and I would prefer the court decides how much he should pay me. I do want to get this started and done and over as soon as possible so I can get out of here. I have already started packing my stuff and trying to figure out how I'm going to get it to the east coast. Any suggestions or advice would be greatly appreciated.

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