wanting out after 10 years of drugs, verbal and physical abuse and booze,while i am the sober one( from day 1) that put up with it for so long. dont have much - a home in my name only. no childern (grown) very little debt but enough. he makes 90,000 a year i make 20,000 a year. he has no retirement or pension but i do. i cant afford a lawyer and either can he. (money went to most of his habits.) but i dont want to make this a messy divorce i just want out, will he have to pay spoual support? and can he take my retirement?