chatter box
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I have asked that my X father-in-law show proof that he has a motorcycle endorcement from the state before giving my daughter any more rides. I also asked that if he really cared he would take a safty class. "my father does not have to show anything and he can give my daughter a ride on a motorcycle anytime". Think I should ask for a restaing order until he can comply?
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ttina
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A restraining order may be too harsh to begin with. Have you contacted the DMV to see if he has a valid motorcycle endorsement for his license? Is the bike new or is this something that he has been doing for awhile? Does he make her wear a helmet? How old is the child? Is the XFIL responsible? If I am not mistaken, you have sole custody, am I right?
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Motor-Head
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A retaining order because the kids are having fun riding on a motorcycle with there grandpa
No wonder the world is me sewed up with that kind of thanking.
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chatter box
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he does not have an endorsment and thinks because he has a commercial licence it is not required. I check and it is required. The motorcycle riding and written test is much different then that of a car. The motorcycle is not really new but the rides have started faily recently. He does not have a lot of experiance on a bike either. She does were boots and helmet. She is eight. I'm not against them having fun I just want to make sure he is capable. I asked on my other forum with my riding buddies if I should ask that he get his endorsment and all nineteen replies came back as a diffenant yes. One is a cop and made a good point even if he got one doesn't mean it would make him safer. It does give the insurance company a way out of paying for any medical expences if there were an accedint.
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ttina
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it is true that a license would not make him safer. The thing is do you really want to make an issue over it? You could stalk him and call the cops as soon as he has your daughter on the bike, but what would that accomplish? As much as it is aggrivating, this is the momma's parental time. It is her responsibility to say yes or no.
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happytobdivorced
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I understand why you feel like you do about your ex father in law riding your kids on a motorcycle. But there is nothing you can do about it. Believe me there will be plenty of things that you will not approve of or like that your ex does with the kids or lets them do-but when they are with him-you have no say so.
It sucks-but it is the way it is. You can get angry and threaten things like a restraining order-but it won't do any good.
Sorry. But I have been through many situations similar to this and all you can do is pray that you taught your kids well and pray for their safety.
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Message for my ex "I think you know by now, I'm not the person I used to be"
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chatter box
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Happy I know your right. I guess what bothers me is the fact that it is so reliant on the awareness of those around them when they are riding. I mean if it was a horse I wouldn't have a problem even though I know how horses can be. But on a motorcycle most accedents are caused because of other drivers, the speeds are so much greater and the kenitic energy is so much greater. The potental for major enjories is so high. If she was older and it was a boy friend I wouldn't let her out of the house to do the same thing.
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Jada
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[quote]I have asked that my X father-in-law show proof that he has a motorcycle endorcement from the state before giving my daughter any more rides. I also asked that if he really cared he would take a safty class. "my father does not have to show anything and he can give my daughter a ride on a motorcycle anytime". Think I should ask for a restaing order until he can comply? [/quote]
Just how old is your child? In NJ, it is law that a child has to wear a seatbelt. Not only that, they have to at least 8 years old or 80 pounds before they can ride without a booster seat. There is no seatbelt on a motorcycle. And just where is the booster going to go if your child is under 8 years old or 80 pounds?
And you can get a restraining order prohibiting her going on the motorcycle (I know of someone who did get it in the court order when the father bought a motorcycle as the primary mode of transportation). Enforcing it is another. For one thing, you would have to call the cops as soon as you see it happening.
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chatter box
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She's eight, but there are no laws regaurding motorcycles and kids in almost every state. I did ask my lawer today but no answer yet. All I'm asking is that he at least do the state minimum requirement.
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Motor-Head
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And I bet he is shaking his head while he counts the $$$ you waste on this.
At 8 she can make the decision if she wants to ride or not. Its apparent she likes to ride.Let her ride.
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