numbnms
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My son is 4 turns 5 next month, he's a 'big' boy just ask him ;-). With all the changes he has endured this last year, mom leaving, the divorce, the subsequent moves, changes in daycare (heck starting daycare at all); I was wondering how to evaluate his emotional level for attending school next year. Being able to do the work is not an issue in the least, he reads on a 3rd grade level, can do the same math his 9 year old cousin can, can write better than his dad (thank god) etc etc etc.
my concerns stem from the way he interacts with his peers, he is stand offish now where he once was everyones best friend. He is prone to temper tantrums where before he was mild mannered as superman. He will out right refuse to do things, even things he likes to do; today he refused to play in his t-ball game and he normally loves to play.
Maybe I'm looking to hard for problems that dont really exist and he is like every other 4-5 year old out there, but he doesnt seem like it to me.
Any suggestions? Or should I just roll with it and keep my eyes open? This parenting thing is tough without the manual, the hospital swears they gave me one but I guess I lost on the way to the car.
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KGrow
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Once you "evaluate his emotional level", What choices do you have? Clearly he's got some behavioral changes going on. It would be difficult to say how much divorce is responsible and how much is developmental.
I have my manual right here and it tells me that the best way through these things is love, patience, consistency in your parenting and advice/assistance from others or professionals to help you over some of the larger hurdles.
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numbnms
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The choice I am facing is if I should hold him back a year, this will be his first year in real school. If he starts school in the fall he will be one of the youngest in his class. He only made the cut off by 4 days. Probably Im over concerned about nothing but was wondering none the less.
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Jada
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[quote]The choice I am facing is if I should hold him back a year, this will be his first year in real school. If he starts school in the fall he will be one of the youngest in his class. He only made the cut off by 4 days. Probably Im over concerned about nothing but was wondering none the less. [/quote]
When I was a nanny, there was a mom whose son just made the cutoff date for kindergarten, she put him in. She wished she had waited another year as her son was struggling.
My son missed the cutoff date by 6 days (and that is only because its full day kindergarten where I live). Even if he had made it, I would have waited another year. It's better to be one of the older ones in class (and my son is one of the oldest one in his class) and not struggle.
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mistake#2
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My sons kindergarden teacher suggested that he repeat it, although he was being released from special education services. He was reading at a 3rd grade level but has behavioral issues and due to his OCD she thought that he wouldn't be able to keep up with the rest of his class. I chose to go ahead and put child into first grade and see how it progressed. I figured that I could have him repeat the grade if he didn't do well. His first grade teacher was absolutely shocked when I told her half way through the year that it was suggested for him to repeat kindergarten as he was progressing so well.
My thought process was to let him have the opportunity to succeed before assuming that he'd fail.
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ttina
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Could you put him in Kindergarden this year... see how he does... then if he doesn't do well, he can be placed in a K/1 class (basically a combined class of kindergarden and 1st grade then on to a regular 1st grade or second depending on his emotional development. If he is at an advanced educational level, he may always be the youngest in some of his classes due to his mental ability. Call the councelor at his school... they may even evaluate him for you.
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