i separated from my wife of 2.5 years last year. However, we continued seeing each other after separation (even as we went through the logistics of applying for a divorce) and continued having sex till 3 months ago when I moved to US. I haven't dated ever since -i thought of it though- because I felt i was not in that frame of mind.
Recently, she asked me out of the blue if I have an active sexual life. She told me she had had sex with more than one person after I left. She sounded perplexed on why i wasn't doing the same ("what are you saving yourself for?"). Now, she is gonna be visiting me in a few weeks for a weekend and sex is understood and expected.
I am confused... what is she trying to communicate/do? if she is having sex with other men all over the place, presumably to get over our relationship, why would she come back to me for it? Especially since she rules out any possibility of reconciliation.
I am also confused about my own feelings. Though I expected to hear from her that she was leading an active sexual life, when she did tell that, I could feel the blood draining from my face. I still love her and haven't gotten over her. A part of me, however, doesn't want to sleep with her when she does come to visit me, i have no clue what this is all about.
Please don't sleep with her. Don't compromise yourself. She's whoring around and could bring you the gift that keeps on giving. Be careful with yourself and your feelings.
Thanks Sarah, I have made up my mind on not sleeping with her when she's here. It will only make me feel more miserable and may be it will make it more difficult to disentangle from all the pain and emotions.
I am still curious though to know why she'd want to meet up with me, if she wishes to "move on" in her life and is getting what she wants elsewhere. Is she trying to communicate something? Is she also confused and going through a bad time but proud enough not to speak out?
It kind of sounds like she wants to have her cake and eat it too. I'm sure she has fond memories of sleeping with you and wants to hold onto them, without the rest of the responsibilities of the relationship. Don't give her the satisfaction. You seem like a nice guy, don't let her do that to you. Nothing good can come of it.
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