What will I lose
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i copied this from the womens forum post so forgive my laziness at reformatting it for here
for those not following along, my wife is disabled and living with me until a few months, i just filed but she didnt get the papers...so ill have to drive her to the PO to get them when they come. Obviously we have stress in the house.
last night i made comment about the girl that closed her local credit union account....in the past my wife wouldnt have minded this and even would have made the same comment to me....but now she said im tired of you saying stuff like that since we are getting D...ok fine i can get that but she's the one that says she wanted to keep it like it always was until she leaves and not get all pissy with each other :)
...anyway so i just was quiet and stood at the microwave waiting for dinner to heat up..just faced it and didnt see anything of her since she was beside/back of me....she said are you giving me silent treatment..i said nothing..then she playfully touched my butt and back trying to get reaction..nothing and i stood still....now i couldnt see what she was doing and it was quiet so i waited about 30 sec then turned...then felt it...she apparently had taken a needle and put it near but not touching my arm so when i turned, i ran into it..she said sorry she didnt think i would move..what the fluck..who puts a needle to someones arm to get attention like that. i said that is a stupid thing to do to get attention, there are other ways of doing it...i said i'm sure people will love to hear you are sticking needles in me now....she said sorry she just was trying to get a reaction out of me...then i gave her silent treatment and she said are you still mad at me,, i said no but she knew i was and said so..then 1 hour later said will you be mad all night..i said no..see she has zero contact with the outside world but i can sit there all night and not say a word but it kills her when i dont talk to her..but shat under this circumstance who would blame me for not wanting to talk to her? now this week she got an earful from her sis who said her bf was a total jerkface so my wife isnt looking forward to moving in with them but hey is that my problem..no...and why stick a needle in me to take it out on me?
so WTF is going on..have any of you woman on here done something like this and can you explain your behavior if you did?
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call me WWIL...PA resident 39 year old , married 11 years, together 12...splitting in 13th year.
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saamrodi
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No...never done anything like that.
My first thought though reading this was "is that needle clean"
Was it a sewing needle or does she have syringes there for any medical reasons?
Maybe paranoia due to my background. Just asking.
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mfergel
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While I don't condone her actions, it almost sounds like you were going out of your way to ignore her. She did a stupid thing to get attention. Was there another way you could have handled the situation prior to the needle attempt that wouldn't have resulted in this action?
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What will I lose
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diabetic needle she said she never used
[quote]While I don't condone her actions, it almost sounds like you were going out of your way to ignore her. She did a stupid thing to get attention. Was there another way you could have handled the situation prior to the needle attempt that wouldn't have resulted in this action? [/quote]
well i was standing there waiting for the dinner to cook in the microwave not talking to her, i guess i could have moved to some other position to wait for the food to cook while i remained silent but who could ever have predicted she would grab a needle and just stand there with it. It was all out of my sight, couldnt see what she was doing, trust me if i saw he grab the needle i woulda took off or moved away, not turned into it. I dont know what she was thinking> maybe that i would turn without moving and see the needle and say what do you want?
plus it was bizarre, her playing with my butt laughing then one second later needle at my arm. who the fluck does such a thing?
and why do i ever have to talk to her? i pissed her off with a comment, fine if i was wrong...then why would you wanna continue talking to me if i'm an idiot? I cannot understand that behavior
also she said NUMEROUS times, i cant wait until you screw up, i'll be down your throat so fast! and she asked how long ill hold this over her head
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call me WWIL...PA resident 39 year old , married 11 years, together 12...splitting in 13th year.
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allthumbs
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I forsee things getter stranger and perhaps dangerous as this plays out. Ever see " Play Misty For Me" ? or "Fatal Attraction" ? How about "War of the Roses" ? You know your stbx is mentally unstable yet you are willing to sleep in the same house? Remember Lorena Bobbit? These are just a few examples of the extent of insanity some couples go through when separating/divorcing/ending it. After this, I'd be moving out, period.
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ljlost
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Did your wife ever stick you with a needle??.............OK...now this makes a good inside joke for me. Atvillas and Bloor......I know tht YOU know what im talking about! think about it. lol
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Beat-Down
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I never got stuck with a needle but she did switch my Lexapro (anti-depressant) with her Ambient sleeping peels. WTF was SHEEEEE thinking? I may have you beet here. I know what she did was wrong, no doubt about it. The silent treatment is not always a good thing. We have to remember that we are adults and it makes sense to try and handle things amicably. Can you guys not communicate with each other with out arguing?
PS- I am not beating up on you here. Please don't read it wrong.
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What will I lose
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ok u beat me with the drug thing...but i'd never mess with her drugs..i'm not stupid enough to do anything traceable back to me lol
i took off yesterday because we had at least 4 different places to go and i needed to catch up on yardwork too...1st thing we did was go to the PO to get her registered letter about the filing...didnt open until we got home but we had a nice day together...got all accomplished she wanted to and i even reminded her we need to go to the toy store because she wanted 2 new toys for herself since she is convinced she will never find another man. Went out for dinner and then to her DR and she shared a moment with him which was nice for them both. When finally got home she wanted answers as to why i'm doing the D and i rehashed a few things but it came down to no matter what she wouldnt like the answer.
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call me WWIL...PA resident 39 year old , married 11 years, together 12...splitting in 13th year.
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tiredofnagging
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Anyone who sticks a needle in someone who isn't a member of the medical community should be arrested for assault, especially soon to be ex-wives!
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What will I lose
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[quote]Anyone who sticks a needle in someone who isn't a member of the medical community should be arrested for assault, especially soon to be ex-wives! [/quote]
unfortunately, i doubt they would arrest someone in a wheelchair, i never saw it happen on cops or Jail (a good show if you havent seen it)
Plus techincally she can say she didnt stab me and that it was my fault for moving into the needle. And it's factually correct lol. Either way it's not how i want to be to her, i want to try to take the high road. As much as a batch about her on here, we are really not doing too bad except for her verbal jabs. She's the most helping she's ever been around the house and her smoking only in the other room is a big plus. She cited the 'what you are condemning me to' life last week but i held back even answering her. I wanted to say that's not a reason to stay together, just because your life will suck in a trailer where you are alone.
she gave me a story about 2 swans and one that got sick and the other stayed etc. Well another friend told me the real story on discovery was that the healthy one that stayed behind to care for the injured one died while the injured one found a new mate ....nice..not
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call me WWIL...PA resident 39 year old , married 11 years, together 12...splitting in 13th year.
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