mistake#2
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The post on men not being interested in sex had me thinking about this...
I was questioning whether it was really a generation thing, older generations aren't as open about sexuality as say generation X possibly?
I'm 33...I'm very open with my kids about their sexuality and have always answered questions as truthfully and tactfully as possible. In turn, they ask me things that embarass my husband who is turning 40. I know that they will always come to me for answers and hope that my honesty will keep them from feeling the need to experiment as I did at a young age.
I was always open with my husband too in regards to talking about sex...did the whole when have you last been tested, you need to show me a negative HIV test before we go bare, what do you like, etc...I had one encounter in the past where I did all this and the person who swore they were clean had to admit later after getting STD testing that they weren't and they wouldn't have got the testing done if I hadn't pointed out something specific that didn't "look" right and refused to go further without knowing.
Not that anyone here needs specifics but I'm wondering how open most are with their partners and if it's an age/generational gap that is causing some off statistics.
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ATVILLAS
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[quote]I'm 33...I'm very open with my kids about their sexuality and have always answered questions as truthfully and tactfully as possible. In turn, they ask me things that embarass my husband who is turning 40. [/quote]
My kids are 32, they don't ask me about sex anymore, just for money!!!! LOL
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movingon2
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too funny...bet they could teach you a thing or two "about money" ;)...times are a changing...
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jbar
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Not that this has much to do with mens' rights or even divorce, but I would like to ask you a few questions, as if I were one of your kids, and to see what your answers would be to them:
1. Mommy, why do men have to pay for everything when a man and a woman "date"?
2. Mommy, I heard Uncle Joe telling someone that his wife divorced him for his money and now he has to live in a shelter, and his wife stays in the house he bought and he has to pay her almost everything he makes. He said that he only gets to see Jimmy and Janette once a week, for two hours. Is this true? Did he do something wrong?
3. Mommy, what is "prostitution"? Why is someone on TV always saying that someone is going to jail for it?
4. Mommy, what is an "abortion"? I saw someone on TV holding a sign that said it is murder. If this is true, why don't they arrest someone who does this, instead of the "prostitutes"?
Your absence of any reply will be understandable, as would be your absence of any reply if you were, indeed, asked these questions by your child. How can a person rationally answer any question, when the answer would expose themselves as being a self-serving, exploitative hypocrite?!
Edited by jbar (05/15/08 03:47 AM)
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malone
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[quote]
1. Mommy, why do men have to pay for everything when a man and a woman "date"?
2. Mommy, I heard Uncle Joe telling someone that his wife divorced him for his money and now he has to live in a shelter, and his wife stays in the house he bought and he has to pay her almost everything he makes. He said that he only gets to see Jimmy and Janette once a week, for two hours. Is this true? Did he do something wrong?
3. Mommy, what is "prostitution"? Why is someone on TV always saying that someone is going to jail for it?
4. Mommy, what is an "abortion"? I saw someone on TV holding a sign that said it is murder. If this is true, why don't they arrest someone who does this, instead of the "prostitutes"?
Your absence of any reply will be understandable, as would be your absence of any reply if you were, indeed, asked these questions by your child.
How can a person rationally answer any question, when the answer would expose themselves as being a self-serving, exploitative hypocrite? [/quote]
You dislike women so much. So just who do you like if you don't like women?
Were you ever married? If so, what is your wife doing now? Presumably living high on the hog on your money and that's what's got you ...all of you. Nothing left but bitter feelings to every living female on this earth.
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malone
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Oh man. I think I might be turning into a feminist.
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mfergel
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I'm 41, my wife is going to be 36. We never really shared that stuff with each other. I always felt like she was embarresed about that stuff. I even bought her a book, something along the lines of "it's ok for good girls to be bad". Ultimately, who cares at this point. Doesn't really matter.
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liberated
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Wow, jbar, you can hijack any thread with your distorted thinking...
But Malone, I think this is a good question. I think it has less to do with age or generation than just simply outlook and upbringing. My Ex is 56, 17 yrs older than me...don't ask! But he is closed off about everything...including sex. We talked about it once every year or so when I brought it up and complained that he never wanted it...how that made me feel, etc. He avoided it and discussion of it like the plague. That was from the beginning...long story.
Now, I am dating my BF who is 47. He is very open and honest about everything sexual and we talk openly before during and after. Wow! What a difference that makes. But again, he is open and honest about everything and we talk all the time about big things, littlethings, our communication in all regards is top notch.
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chatter box
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There is more then 10 years differance in my wife and I and we are pretty open about it. Not like my X and I with one year between us. With my current cituation with my X and I do not even want to think about when our daughter gets older.
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jakandme
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this is an interesting discussion. I'm very open about sex with a partner. I'm passionate and also compassionate, so I'm able to ask alot of questions and don't mind to answer alot of them either. That is just me. The stbx, liked talking about it but only when it was convienent for him. Just like everything else in his life. Only when it's good for him would he ever discuss anything. My kids are at funny ages about it, they hear words like sex and sexy on tv and at school and they ask me about it. Not too long ago my six year old heard a girl at school say that if a boy takes you on a date, they just want sex. I asked her what she thought that meant. She said they kiss ya and hold your hand and I told her that only grown ups who are married have sex and that she didn't need to know exactly what it meant right now. I don't know if I handled that sitch well or not, I mean she is six years old! How can you be tactful to that? That was the best I could come up with when she was telling her five year old sister what the girl at school had said. UUUGGGGHHH I never knew about that stuff until I was at least ten, and that was because my cousin told me you could get pregnant if a boy french kissed you. lol As far as lovers, in this day and time, you have to be very careful. There are things out there that nothing can cure. Very scary!
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