Too many posts probably start like that: "I just about had it". That how it works, though. You take as much as you can and then you can't any more. My wife threatened to slit my throat tonight. In front of our almost 3 yr old daughter. She didn't catch it, thanks God... I'm not worried about her threat - if she would try it, it would probably be beneficial for me, she would get arrested. But I don't want my daughter to lose her mom, or me. I think we are both very good parents. Anyhow, like I was saying, I just about had it... So, where should I start? I have asked her to go to counseling before, and she says nobody will take out of her memory the bad experiences she had with me. Here's some backgroung: I work 2 jobs, and when I'm at home I'm all the time with my daughter. She doesn't want to work more then 20hrs/ week - she thinks taking care of the girl is enough. She only does laundry. I do the rest: cleaning, some cooking, cleaning up the mess after her. Cause she is messy, and I'm not. So, since she doesn't wanna go to counseling, should Ijust go find a lawyer??? I grew up without a father (because he died before i was 3 yrs old) and mostly without a mother because she lived and worked in another town, 3 hours away. I don't want my daughter to miss any of her parents, but I can't take it any more... where should I start?