Hi, I have been married for 13 years and have 2 children. We moved in to Virginia about 6 months ago because of his job. While I was visiting my family in July, my husband had an affair. I found out because the lady called me and told me that my husband wants divorce and she and my husband are getting serious. She visited him again this months. She asked me to come see her and ask him which one he wants to pick, and if he lies, we both should leave. I didn't go.
My husband says, he wants to divorce right now but may change his mind later. But he needs to be alone and think, so he left. Yesterday, he told me we are legally separated. I did not sign any paper. Do you think it is true? He says he wants to keep both door opened right now, door to family and door to her. I know it is not fair.
Any advice what I could do to protect my kids, and my life within this next 12 months.
Why do you still want him around? Are you willing to take him back in a yar knowing he left the door open for both of you? I am asking I do not know what I would do. As for your kids how old are they? I do not know if you can or can not do this, but I would talk to him about the kids never finding out about this affair. If you 2 get back together this could hurt things especially daughters. Legal seperation is all. Make sure he can not start accumulating debt and make sure you are getting support for kids and your home $$$. Seperate finances so later on you are not stuck w/his responsiility. That other woman is something else. Sorry for your pain. Take care of yourself and your kids. You seem pretty level headed good luck and keep posted!!!
Thank you for responding my issue. I know what he is doing is not fair, and what he wants, but I still love him. And I probably haven't caught up this change. I am having a hard time accepting some of the facts.
My daughter knows about it already. She is 12. I have 8 years old son, also. She told daddy that she loves him, but she does not love what he is doing(separating).
I was advised to go to court for custody and child support and maybe spousal support for the separation period.
All the car is titled with my husband name. We have joint bank account, and he hasn't done anything yet. I can still use to pay bill. The other woman lives outside of the states, so they have to fly to see each other.
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