Desperate & poor
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Reged: 09/17/08
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Hello,
I currently live in Hawaii with my two children (2 and 4 years old), just separated in June this year. One year ago, I've consulted a lawyer who told me that in my case, I have only a thin chance of getting a decent child support, if any. I am a single working mother. My oldest son goes to preschool and my youngest goes to the babysitter: which means lots of costs. I am also paying rent, so the total is collossal every month, especially with all the other various expenses (within the reasonable). My husband returned since, to live with his mother, thus no rent to pay, only his nights out to pay, out of his part-time job. Yes, he refuses to get a full-time job. He has better to do with his day, at the beach...While I am struggling with the kids schedule, work schedule, and after work mommy schedule. Recently I have been making some research on the web and found out that I may have the option to get a child support order issued via the child support agency. Why my lawyer did not mention about this option, I'm not sure? My parents being very much against divorce, I've figured maybe this is the way to go. I obviously earn much more than my husband. (I actually have no idea how much he is currently earning) But want him desperately to pay at least half of the preschool and babysitter costs. Is this feasable?? While he is playing out at the beach every day (he works during night time from 7pm to 11pm, I think), I am now looking for a part time job in order to be able to meet my month end payments. I've requested him to look after my youngest son, so that I don't have to pay for his babysitter (as my husband cannot affort...), but refused this idea, because he might be scheduled to work during day time as well. No serious conversation is possible at this time with him. I've tried to convince his mother to talk him, but it looks like it is her son... and her son comes before her grandchildren. I've borrowed money from my family, but there is a limit to this. Apparently I earn more than the federal poverty guideline, so no financial aids are available for us. Please anybody have a good advise to give to me?
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allthumbs
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Reged: 07/12/07
Posts: 560
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The county in which you live has a child support agency. Go there and discuss your situation. It is possible the court may order support for your children from their father. Even if he has no income, they can impute income to him and order him x amount to pay each month. If or when he does not pay, you notify the CS agency and they should handle it. He still may not pay but will adding up a large bill that he will have to pay someday. They could impound any bank accts. he has ( I know, he doesn't have any ), garnish wages ( I know, he doesn't have any ) add fines to his back support payments and even throw him in jail for contempt. All the while, he is behaving like the scum he is by refusing to help support his children.
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