that I didnt wanna do it anymore and I want to leave. he is really down and sad and said he didnt realize that he was that horrible to me and wants to try to work it out but I'm already set in what I want. After submitting myself to abuse for a couple years Im burned. It feels like I dont have much feelings for him. I mean I care about and have love for him but I just dont wanna be with him anymore and he can understand why i dunno.
"he is really down and sad and said he didnt realize that he was that horrible to me and wants to try to work it out but I'm already set in what I want."
He didn't realize that HITTING you was horrible?
Listen...you don't need his permission or approval or support to leave.And as I said before..don't fall for the pity ploy.
Try and forgive him...but never forget...how he made YOU CRY over and over again..without an ounce of concern for your feelings or well being.
It is sometimes..easy to forget...when they start with the "WOE IS ME" syndrome.They can't face that they ARE THAT BAD...because then they will have to take RESPONSIBILITY for the damage they have done!
Abusers are all about CONTROL...and blame shifting...just wait until he blames YOU for provolking him into his rages at you...and then...don't fall prey to his manipulation!!!!
You have good judgement..and rights...and he stepped all over them for the past 2 years.
Do what you need to do for you.Period.He had plenty of chances to change his abusive behavior before he forced your hand...didn't he?
Stick to your "guns" and don't forget WHY you want out..it will carry you through it all..when he reverts back to his old ways of trying to bully you..and mark my words..he will...as he will begin to HATE you for leaving him....he can only change your mind if you sympathize more with HIS NEEDS..than you own.
Mine tells me all the time...he has become my victim...because I am not willing to tolerate his anger management issues.
They twist it all to suit thier own needs,and wounded ego's.
Don't forget YOUR wounded ego and lost dreams.
Hang tough...you are in for a long ride.
And don't forget his THREAT to take your son away from you.
Cover your butt with a lawyer! NOW!
Heart On
-------------------- "No price is too high to pay for the privilege of owning yourself." Nietzsche
Thanks for the input. Ya I know what you're saying. Im getting with a lawyer soon. I hate how he apologized but I know it will last a couple weeks then he will be a jerk again. I just need the motivation and you are really helping me thanks.
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