Emmit
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to go through several different emotions all within a couple hours? I go through 'fine, let's end this now' to 'NO WAY am I going to give her up without trying my darnest' to feeling angery at myself for not picking up on several clues to wanting to cry/scream to being in a good(I won't say great)mood and then starting it all over again? I have not felt this emotional before in my life. Maybe it is because I am at work and am dealing with other people and their percived 'worst day'. I really do not know what is going on with my emotions today.
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malone
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All normal. If you feel like you're going around on a rollercoaster all day, then relax. You're starting your separation and divorce in exactly the same way as everyone else does. It feels like it goes on forever but it doesn't really. After you bottom out, and you will, it just all slowly improves.
The one thing you have to do is look after yourself. That means be kind to yourself, give yourself a break and have a good support network around you including counselling.
Good luck.
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Emmit
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I think that it was just being at work...I feel much better today and have not had any 'cycles'...yet. Now that I have had a day like that I will be better prepaired for it next time.
Thanks!
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mfergel
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I think that it was just being at work...I feel much better today and have not had any 'cycles'...yet. Now that I have had a day like that I will be better prepaired for it next time.
Thanks!
Trust me, they aren't over and regardless of how prepared you think you are, it isn't going to matter, they keep coming and they will continue to knock you on your butt for awhile.
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Emmit
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I expect to be knocked down, it was just that I have not felt the emotions run through me so fast before. Not saying that I will be able to handle them everytime, just better prepared.
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mfergel
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yeah, that hit me hard as well. I don't know if that's what women go through with pms, but it was hell. damn minute to minute changes in my mood, feelings and personality. Felt completely out of control.
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happy2beme
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Just like a child. When they fall down they get up and dust theirselves off. It helps to have someone there. That's the great thing about this site.
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Love yourself first. Then you can love others.
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Emmit
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Exactly! I have stood up from yesterday and am looking forward to facing today! I have a great support group at work (only a select few know most of the story) but with no family within 800 miles I will take what I can get.
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CMSA
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Glad that you are having a better day!
Just be prepared for the ups and downs, you never know when they are going to hit. I remember asking the same "is this normal" question to friends a while ago. I would be happy and laughing one minute and then crying over the vacuum cleaner coming unplugged from the wall the next. Unfortunately, yes this is the norm.
I wish you the best and next time that you hit a downer time, just be thankful that you haven't truly lost your mind like you were questioning, it's just being welcomed to the unfortunate world of divorce and it's emotional ride.
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"You cannot be lonely if you like the person you're alone with."
Dr. Wayne W. Dyer
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