H0NEY
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Reged: 05/15/08
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Lately it seems all i can think about is attempting it but I think about my son and see that I'm just being selfish and it wouldn't be fair to him. Maybe it's the fact that I might be getting deployed soon overseas and I've noticed that my Husband started talking about all this and not wanting to suffer the pain and the fact that I won't be around... I think that's when all this started when I told him that my unit will be deploying This upcoming January. But it could be more than that. I don't know, I'm almost to the point of giving up! Am I going crazy!? or just being weak and selfish? I always try to put others first before me, am I being a pushover? I try to be happy but the pain seems unbearable that I feel numb at times. How do one overcome this?
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PinkRose
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Reged: 07/09/07
Posts: 1765
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Your are too important to too many people to even
consider suicide. This post really scared me.
Please, whatever you do, come here if you have any
more thoughts like that.
IF you need someone to talk to, please PM me.
When you get down and need to post, go to Life After Divorce, it gets the most traffic.
Please you are too important too be thinking these
thoughts.
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I'm a living sunset... there's light in my bones. You can push me to the edge, but my will is stone!
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movingon2
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Reged: 12/06/07
Posts: 209
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Honey,
I take it that you are in the military? You are in a very difficult situation and feeling overwhelmed. The biggest obstacle is the upcoming deployment, but it is not for another eight months and things may have settled down by then. Is there a trusted friend, supervisor, or chaplain that you can talk with? Let them know the pressures you are under right now. You are not weak, selfish, or crazy, you’ve got a lot going on, but there are people who can help you through this and you will eventually see the light at the end of the tunnel. Seek some help.
As sad as you may feel, you’ve got a wonderful thing going for you and that is your baby boy who will bring you years of joy!
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saamrodi
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Reged: 06/14/07
Posts: 2899
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You overcome it minute by minute, hour by hour, day by day hun.
Many of us have been in your shoes in the sense that you feel you have lost or will lose what you prize most.
Life just changes sometimes. It just happens. All that can be done is to move along with it. Find the positives in the negatives, and keep close to you what really matters.
Situations will change but the love for your children never will and in the end its still there, theres still memories, and they will and can learn alot from us that NOBODY else can teach them. You have to hold onto that for your child and for yourself.
Youll get sick of hearing this, but it just takes time and a willingness to look at yourself and the future and how to make it all work out for the best.
Good luck and hang in there. Read or post. Just keep coming here. It helps to see that others have been able to move past this point.
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LostWithoutHope
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Reged: 03/31/08
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As others have said, don't even think about it - you're too important to too many people.
While I am not deploying, I too am in the military and understand how you feel. My ex sprung this divorce on me without notice, and I am slated to move in '09 with or without her.
I had the same feelings as you, for the first few minutes. Then I realized that there was no way I could submit to those feelings. I will warn you that you need to brace yourself, as your feelings fluctuate so much that you might as well be on a roller coaster.
I am 2 months out from when my wife left - and it is still difficult. However, I have re-established some friendships and am working to make it through it.
Always remember that there are those out there that love you and to take yourself out of this world would be selfish and would be hurtful to all those that leave behind. Continue to post to this forum, as it will help you in the long run.
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sohurt
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Reged: 03/14/07
Posts: 162
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Suicide is not an answer. It may seem like one but it's not. Please think of your son and how unfair it would be to him to loose you.
My brother-in-law's father committed suicide this past summer and he was devastated.
I can’t say that I didn’t consider it when I found pix of my wife having sex with someone while she was pregnant with our daughter and her response was, “oh yah, I meant to tell you that I’m leaving you.”
I had no clue she was even cheating on me. Never mind that she was pregnant while she was doing it.
I was devastated but my daughter already had one parent fail her and I’d be dammed if she was going to have two.
Please get whatever help you need.
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