OK men out there. Have any of you had the experience of not having the same feelings for their wives after 15 years of marriage? If you did, why? Just trying to understand.
If you mean falling out of love, I don't think that is a male or female phenomena. I can only add anecdotal information and I'm coming from the opposite perspective. My parents celebrated their 51st wedding anniversary last June. While my parents definately disagreed at times and fit "the old married couple" steriotype sometimes too, their is/has always been a very strong emotional connection between them. They could argue and get upset with each other, but you knew that they always loved each other and would be there for each other. My wife came from a twice broken family. The arguing and disagreeing led to a disolution of the relationship. The emotional connection just wasn't strong enough. In hindsight I think the example we get from our parents has much more to do with the loyalty of our feelings then our sex.
Some clarification is needed here as well. I am not saying (as could be inferred above) that if your parents divorce you will divorce, or if your parents stick you will stick. In some cases I am sure people look at the pain their parents went through in a divorce and vow to stick through anything, in other cases children see their parents being cruel and abusive to each other and either want to avoid getting close, or feel that they can do anything to their spouse and get away with it. What I am saying is that we get our views on relationships from our parents and pass them on to our kids. Staying in a bad marriage can be just as damaging as cutting and running from a marriage that can be saved. That's what makes life interesting, the choices we make.
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