So sorry you are going thru all this...but if this helps...I was with someone I should of left...for 39yrs...I wish I had left sooner..it isn't any easier later....if you feel you would be better off without him...and he is causing you all that pain...then get some advice from an attorney...you have a right to be happy..only you know what you need right now...and by all means..contact your family...they need to know what is going on...he could be telling them not to contact you...you need them...call them