I see that this is your first time posting. I'm glad you found this site. You will find some wonderful people here. Make sure you post often about whatever you're feeling. Someone here has endured what you are going through at the moment and will reach out through cyberspace and take you in their arms in a cyber-hug. And they will give you some good advice.

You are in my prayers as of right now. And I'm sending you some (((((hugs))))). Can you call the church where you did your counseling? Do you have some friends there?

I can really identify with you! I had a spouse that became "super holy" along with her abusiveness. Your discription is a snapshot of my X-wife. It's not easy, but you should know that you're not alone. Others have traveled the terrible path you are on.

I endured her verbal, emotional and physical abuse for more than 20 years, always hoping things would get better. They do for some people, but only some. The worse she got the more holier-than-thou she got. She even told me I could not be a believer because I did not agree with her about my "sins".

I insisted she get counseling and her response was to divorce me.