Actually abuse in marriages where one spouse is a police officer is VERY common. Police officers have a tendancy to bring their work mentality into their personal life. They have to be controlling and rough on the streets to maintain order but they often cannot turn off that switdh so they can return home a normal person. I have 5 officers in my family. All of which are heavy drinkers, abusers, etc. I'm not saying all are like this, but many are. If you want your marriage to atsy together, seek counseling through the police dept. They have many programs for officers like him. If he isn't willing to go, then you need to make a decision to stay and put up with it, or leave. The latter being the best choice. Contact your family, they will understand and give you all the help and support you need. It is not good for you and your son to be living in that situation. I was a child of an abusive police dad. Believe me, it does life long damage to you. Good luck and keep us all posted. We are all here for you....