[quote]My ex's abuse of me was considered immaterial to the kids. It was his addictions that reduced his visitation. Courts have this blinders thing - if he hits you - that doesn't mean he'll hit them.

It is like a twilight zone. [/quote]

Most of my ex's abuse was directed at me. But if he had thrown that watermelon that he had aimed at me at me instead of turning and throwing it on the floor, he would have hit our then 20 month old daughter that I was holding at the time. I still kick myself for not leaving after that incident.

And he has hurt my youngest, but not so bad that I would be able to get sole custody.

But I did get it put into a court order that he had to complete anger management courses before overnight visits started. And since he wanted me to agree to drop the restraining order, he agreed to that.

I just hope that that the 26 week long course that he picked actually works.