Yes, this sounds like my stbx, too.

Everything is fine, as long as he is calling all of the shots (including even what you are allowed to be bothered by).

There are also the little undermining comments, that taken separately, seem fine, but in aggregate form, do nothing but chip away at your self-esteem. Then it is all the easier to convince you that it´s "all your problem".

If you are thinking about this stuff now, while he is your fiancé, just think about what it will be like years from now. With people like that, things don´t get better; the stakes gets higher as they up the ante.

Listen to your gut, and what it´s telling you.