Many aspects of him sound like my ex. If you in fact have a temporary order and he is contacting you, he is in violation of that order and could go to jail. You need to call the police everytime he contacts you and demand that the police file a report. He's a dangerous person and his abuse could potentially escalate. You did nothing wrong. This is his wrongdoing. Those of us who have been abused come in all colors, socieo-economic backgrounds, different levels of education, urban or suburban or rural, all countries of the world, straight or gay, and even female or male. Some of us had very normal and stable childhoods and some of us did not. Abusers are very good actors and very good con artists and very manipulative. Abuse is all about control and power. He's pissed because you are finally attempting to get control back of your OWN life. He can't stand it. You are absolutely making the right decision because doing nothing could lead to you getting killed and becoming a statistic. However, be prepared for things to get uglier real quickly.