[quote]Another question, what constitutes the kuids being in danger? Physically he has never hurt them. I fear his hatred and rage toward me is a threat to them. He is emotionally unstable and if he snaps, it may be on them. He is a fire fighter who was removed from active duty pending counseling for his issues. He was reinstated, but the RO was a year later. He is consumed and I am scared. I would like to believe that this man I was married to for 10 years wouldn't ever hurt me. But, he is so far gone I feel like I am a sitting duck waiting for him to snap! [/quote]

IMO, it sounds like he is unstable. I would ask for an evaluation.

The kids were included in my TRO because the violence was done in front of them. And the fact that he was yelling uncontrollably at a then 3 year old child also played a factor in them being included.