How do you deal with in-laws who blame your abusive husband's behavior on you? Not only do I feel bullied and intimidated by my husband but now I feel the same from my in-laws. It is because of this I was finally driven to get a divorce and am in the process now. Taking abuse from my husband for so long is bad enough but when he pulled the in-laws in to hurt me it became too much. I've never been so hurt in my life.