Well, parents/family usually don't want to admit that their loved one is a total jerk. If they are dsyfunctional themsleves, they may just not see what the big deal is.

Regardless of whether they were loving and functional or are an older version of their son, you deal with it the same way you need to deal with your stbx. No Contact or limited contact if you have children.

You distance yourself and realize that you don't deserve their abuse anymore than you deserve his abuse. I am sorry you are getting this double whammy, but from what I have read on this forum, it happens more often than not.

You need to take care of yourself and do the things that will help you become happy and whole again. Don't allow their words or actions to cut you down further.

We oftentimes forget to stop and think about our own well being. I know I was guilty of that in my former marriage. If however you stop and ask this very simple question "If a good friend of mine, told me what I just stated was happening in my life, what would I say to them and what words of advise or wisdom would I give?"

I suspect you would tell that friend exactly what I just told you. You don't deserve it and to limit any contact with them. That you deserve to be happy, and should do what you already know you need to do.

Here is wishing you a happier 2008!

Chin up and keep posting here.

Nish