Hello all, I am very thankful to have found this forum, for I do believe that this period of my life that I am about to begin will be the most difficult. My relationship has been very stormy, with him being verbally abusing, emotionally abusing, emotionally blackmailing, and etc etc, he's hasn't been very nice. Okay, he has improved throughout the years, but you can't change a leopards' spots, and I know that the longer I stay with him, the more he will suck the life out of me, so I have decided to leave. Now that the money is on the way to my attorney to file, I feel so scared and worry about what it to come. I wish my husband would simply sign the papers and be done, but he is talking all kinds of stuff, like fighting for custody, not beign wlling to pay the minimum child support, or able to, and basically i know he will fight me on everything. I agreed to let him have the house, as he says, "He payed for it all so far" cause i have been raising his kids and i did go to school for a degree. But I haven't paid for anything, so I am letting him have the house since I want to relocate anyway, near my support network, and near people, i am alone all the time here, and his family has never been fond of me. So...........i suppose my feelings are normal, now that the ball is really in motion, things could get ugly. I just pray that I am strong enough to handle this. I know how people can stay married for years when they aren't happy, cause this is terrifying.