i Hate this list.
I wonder if kids get better over time once
the situation is gone.
I notice cycles.
Thing is, the child with the issues now,
is NOT the child physically hurt by my stbx.
But is the one that helped us get out of the house,
the one who'd go upstairs and close the door to get away,
stuff like that.

as for the courts.
jada's 100% on.
spousal abuse is irrelevant.
even if a parent DID hurt a child,
AND even if caa comes and talks to the kids
and all it has to be Really extreme and repeated
for loss of custody or whatever.

the courts are good about ordering angermanagement classes, etc.
i honestly think they can tell when a parent is telling the truth and order classes in those cases.
but, to a point, the courts hands are tied.