It is very very very hard for an abused woman to stop allowing herself to be abused. Even after realizing that you are being abused, it is hard to stop the cycle. Its hard to walk away, and its hard to say NO.

It is very hard to see your way through an abusive situation and stand up for yourself especially against your abuser. Especially when that abuser knows how to push you, knows how to beat you down.

Being able to turn those tides takes a massive amount of growth and strength and support.

Your girlfriend is very lucky to have you on her side, loving her, caring about her, and being there for her with such understanding of what it is like to be abused as she has. You can do so much to help your GF get through this and help her find her strength.

It sounds like her X is just trying to bully her and she is scared becasue that is how he has conditioned her, and he knows just what to say and do to get her feeling that way. Constant reassurance from you of the truth of legal matters will help her feel more confident about her actual position. Eventually she will find the ability to shut him out.

Until then, if you do truly love your GF, be there for her. She needs you.