Well, that old saying seems true in this instance " be careful what you ask for" My x is living w/a very violent woman, she and he are constantly going at it physically. His friends comment to me and i have seen a bruise or 2 on him when he has taken time to see the kids.
He and I were never in a physical altercation thru our 20 yrs of marriage, now he's catching it everyday of their life. She knew he had a wife and kids..and if he left it would mean CS and Alimony..so why fight w/ him when he doesn't have enough funds for what you and your kids (none of them are his)want to do. I sometimes feel sorry to see him in this pardicurement, but what goes around comes back around. He decided she was what he wanted instead of me, his kids, and our life together...so God bless him.