Hey I can tell you from my own experience that things will probably not get better. I hung on to my husband and hoped for that for years and it just gradually got worse. I just KNEW without a doubt that my husband would never physically hurt me but he did. He was very emotionally and psychologically abusive for years but he had never put his hands on me until July 2007.
I was scared too. I still am scared. It was one of the hardest things I have ever done. I accepted a monetary settlement and I left. I got the short end of the stick financially but if he don't change he will get his short end in time and God will see to that. I truly believe with all my heart that he will answer to God for the way he treated me. He has everything that I helped him to build but life goes on. He had NOTHING when I met him.
I went to EMPOWERMENT classes that was thru the local SAFE organization. The class was for battered women.
Funny his recollection of the incident is that I battered him!!! You need to read the book "Men Who Hate Women and the Women Who Love Them".
I really was unaware how much my husband controled me until I got on the outside and began looking in. He was good at what he did.........the counselor told me that he was a pro!! Good luck to you.......