You are making the right decision in getting divorced. I was in the same situation. He will not change. You will always be to blame for everything. He will also try to turn everyone against you, including your kids. This is how he tries to retain his control over you.

I was married for 24 years. My nasty divorce was finalized in April of 2007, so it's been a little over a year since "officially" divorced. My ex husband still gives me grief as often as he can in regards to the kids, but hey - he's just a lonely "little" man that has to deal with things his way. I'm free from him and he's very angry that he has lost his control over me.

I had a very hard time with my decision to get out of this marriage - just like you. But things are much different now that I'm out. I have a fresh perspective of what I was in and how wrong it was.

I have since written a book about the disastrous marriage, the steps I took to get out and getting back on my feet again. You can find it posted here:

http://www.bookhabit.com/competition/book_details.php?book_id=562

Yes, I've entered it in a competition and it's entered under a pen name to protect my children. I'm hoping to get my story out there to help strengthen as many women as I can. Please read and rate my story to help me get the message out.

You will see many similarities between your husband and my ex. My book contains excellent counseling as I went through the divorce as well - you should benefit greatly from it.

I will be here to help you in any way I can. Regards, k