It was crude, but the reality is that an Order of Protection is a tool to give you criminal protection from IMMINENT DANGER from the spouse or partner. If one person violates it by sleeping with their ex - the next 15 people that meet that cop for protection are treated differently. Sorry to put that burden on you, but it is true. That cop will look at the next person that needs protection and will wonder - did she invite him over and now regrets it.

OPs are not a tool for a divorce. It saved my life. It has saved a lot of lives. And too many lives have been lost because the response time was just that one second too slow because someone wondered whether they really meant it.