Hi all-
I am a recovering emotional abuser. My stbx were together for 10 years, married for 5. It started with what I called "jokes" a little dig here a jab there. Eventually I had her walking on eggshells to the point where she wouldn't talk to me about things that mattered to her and she was anxious to come home. she tried numerous times to work on things and I refused saying stupid things like "if you want a divorce that's fine I'll be over you in a couple of days". Well she did it almost two months ago (I don't blame her) and I can't get over her. She's the best, most beautiful, caring woman I've ever known and I hate myself for what I've done. Ive since come to learn that I projected my inadequacies and insecurities to her as a way to make me feel better about myself. I'm working very hard to change myself and can only hope she'll realize I'm genuinely trying and give me one last chance.
To all of you who've suffered through the same s&^$ I put my wife through, I'm sorry, you deserve better!!!!
Moochalee