I sometimes felt the same way. Things I said she took the wrong way and I didn't realize how some of the things I said might have hurt her. Granted, I never called her names, etc.

For example, if I needed help carrying something heavy, she would try to help and to be honest, was of little help. Instead of thanking her for trying, etc., I'd sometimes respond "What exactly are you doing at the gym?" She would be at the gym 5-6 times a week. To be honest, I didn't see much change in her physically for the amount of time she spent there. That's besides the point though. I realize now that wasn't the nicest thing to say.

However.....she also made me feel less than great about myself by things she did. I felt like I was repulsive too her many times throughout the relationship. I lost over 45 lbs and it was still making no difference.

I take full responsibility for the part I played in the divorce and have admitted as such to her my mistakes, etc. She has not done the same. I was a jerk, I suffer(ed) from depression and made mistakes. So did she.