[quote]Well, it's a bit of both but yeah, let her feel like she's an important part of the process. To her, (and while you probably feel differently) it's probably seemed like nagging. You might be surprised, try that with a few other things and she might even let up on you. For example, if you are going to the store for something, you might not normally tell her or you might just say "I'm going to the store." Take it a step further and say, "I'm going to the store. I need to pick up some xyz. Is there anything you need? Would you like to come along?"

Unfortunately too late, I've learned that involving your spouse in things can make a world of difference, even when you feel it's a non-event. [/quote]

Thank for YOUR input. I will try and follow thru.
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